Q: What are the steps and duas of the first night with ones wife after marriage?
A. On the first night of marriage, when in seclusion with the wife, hold the forelocks (hair of the forehead) of her head and recite the following Du'aa:
اَللّٰهُمَّ إِنِّىْ أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ ،
Thereafter make Du'aa for Barakah.
Whenever intending to go to the wife (to satisfy oneself), recite the following Du'aa:
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ اللّٰهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا ،
If she conceives, that child will be protected from Shaytaan, Inshaa Allah Ta'aala.
It is not necessary that sexual intercourse take place on this first night.
Mufti Siraj adds:
It is also Sunnat to offer the wife a glass of milk or some sweet drink.
Both spouses should make Wudhu and offer two Rakaats Nafl Salaah in Jamaat, if possible.
Moulana Yusuf Laher
Checked by: Mufti Siraj Desai